Oh the agency of others… So frustrating sometimes! Yes, I am aware of the importance of it in the whole grand scheme of things, but seriously I wish we could pause the agency of others at times! How much easier would life be if that were possible. To take away the chance of others to hurt, disappoint, or trouble us. Life would be a lot easier to handle if this were the case wouldn’t it?!
I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and as I was talking to a friend of mine about this (I love to talk to others and hear their opinions on things!), I had a thought. While the agency of others does affect us, and at times may hurt us, it just has to be so. When a baby is learning to walk we don’t stop them from falling down, because they have to learn what works and what doesn’t. When people use their agency, and by chance it causes harm to us, we learn. Hopefully those who are the cause of such woe will eventually learn, and make amends, for their actions; we can’t sit around and wait for that though.
It is incredibly difficult for me to sit back and watch others cause suffering in others lives, sadly it is a part of this thing called life. Learning how to let these things go, and realizing the growth and learning that can happen from these moments, might be what it’s all about. What say you?